While some people might pride themselves on remaining fearless and confident in even the most nerve-wracking situations, they probably just haven’t experienced the pressure that comes from planning a proposal. When you’re looking to pop the question, the idea of your significant other saying no is so terrifying that there’s no hiding from the anxiety.
It does not help that while planning to pop the question, you still have to keep up with life’s many responsibilities. It can make the entire process feel miserable, and the thought that your life is about to change will undoubtedly give the whole experience a surreal vibe.
No matter the scenario, the goal is to get her to say yes. While there are plenty of examples of excellent proposals, there seem to be just as many where things crash and burn. Here are some tips to help ensure that your one and only is blown away.
Be savvy when it comes to the engagement ring
Consider what your partner loves about jewelry, and keep it in mind when choosing an engagement ring. Also, keep in mind that most rings are marked up to ridiculous levels, which means there is nothing wrong with trying to negotiate and haggle for a lower price point.
If you want to save as much money as possible without sacrificing the aesthetic quality of the ring, one of the best things to do would be to put your primary focus on the stone — specifically the cut. Some people go for a low-carat and high-quality cut, as it allows the smaller stones to sparkle quite a bit. There is also the color and clarity to consider, though people who are on a tight budget can tweak the color and quality to get the most out of it without paying a substantial amount.
After all, engagement rings are one of the most expensive single purchases for a piece of jewelry a person can make. It’s common for people to want the best possible ring, yet not have enough of a budget. Fortunately, engagement rings for women do not have to be so expensive. A bit of research can go a long way.
Do not put her on the spot
Of all the pieces of advice you can take, one of the most crucial is not to put your significant other on the spot. Any situation where she feels like she has to say yes to avoid being embarrassed is to be avoided at all costs. For example, trying to pop the question in the middle of a baseball game is not only extremely cliche, but it also will likely end in tears.
If you want to have your partner’s best interests at heart and make sure that she can genuinely think things over and (hopefully) say yes, the best thing to do would be to pop the question when there is no one else around. Having witnesses clapping and going “Awww” might not seem like such a big deal, but it can be highly upsetting to feel like you have no choice on the matter. If the roles were reversed, even if you loved the person, the idea of being forced to say yes might actually turn what was supposed to be a life-changing day into a disaster.
The ideal date
Aside from the engagement ring and making sure not to put your loved one on the spot when popping the question, what would be the ideal date location? Honestly, it depends on what you and your partner feel is the best location. It could be a piece of your history together, which is perfectly fine for anyone that wants to tug on the heartstrings through nostalgia. It can be the very first place you two spent your first date, or it could even be the place where she first said yes to a date. Focusing on relationship firsts is not a bad idea, as popping the question would also be considered a relationship first.
Most people who said yes when their significant others popped the question will say that it’s all about genuine and heartfelt love. While it might not necessarily guarantee that someone will say yes when you pop the question, being as sincere as possible and appreciating them for who they are is a good place to start. After all, anyone who is planning a proposal knows that their partner is the person they want to be with for the rest of their lives.
Popping the question is all about asking your best friend if she wants to spend the rest of her life with you and start a family. Even if it might seem straightforward, there is no denying that it can be a stressful process from start to finish. However, you aren’t planning a proposal for just any reason. Keep that in mind when you finally pop the question.